Six Steps to Building Healthy Sibling Relationships  

Often, it’s challenging for children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and their siblings to connect and form close bonds. Part of the problem is that parents and caregivers often spend so much time with the child who has ASD that the other siblings feel ignored and left out. Because of this, it’s important for parents and caregivers to address their concerns and reassure them of the important role they play as siblings to a child with ASD.   

Here are six simple steps to help foster a healthy relationship between your children:  

Explain What it Means to Have ASD  

Start by telling your other children what a disability is and how it impacts their sibling. Use words that are easily understood. Be sure they know there may be difficulties with communication and making eye contact and may have repetitive actions, sensory issues or even aggression. Provide tips about how to deal with specific situations and answer any questions openly and honestly.   

Recognize Their Feelings 

Your children may feel embarrassed or frustrated by their sibling. Let them know that their feelings are valid. Ensuring they understand what it means to have ASD and other developmental disabilities can help them feel empathy – especially during challenging times. Also, make sure your children can express their feelings without judgment.  

Plan Family Activities 

Spend time together as a family doing activities that are appropriate for everyone. Take a nature walk, play in the backyard, drive to a scenic location, sing songs, have a dance party or prepare a meal together.  

Schedule One-On-One Time  

Be sure to spend time with each of your children individually. This will ensure that everyone feels special, loved and included.  

Create Boundaries and Safe Spaces  

If you have a dedicated sensory area for your child with ASD, it’s a good idea to have a safe space for your other children as well where they can have friends over to play or hang out.   

Let Them Help 

If your other children want to help care for their sibling with ASD, provide them with the information they need, such as a visual schedule with specific activities and routines. Make sure they are recognized and appreciated for helping while also understanding that they can ask for your support if they become overwhelmed.  

Patience is Key 

It can take patience and extra effort to help your children form solid bonds with each other, but it will be worth the time to ensure they have a caring relationship that will continue to grow and flourish over the years.