10 Tips for Dating 101 for People with Autism 

Dating can be a lot of fun. It gives you the opportunity to get to know someone, try new activities and learn more about yourself along the way. To help you navigate the exciting and sometimes confusing world of dating, we’ve put together 10 practical tips below. 

  1. Figure out what qualities you’re looking for in a partner – Before you jump into a romantic relationship, take some time to think about the type of person you’d like to date. You may find that you get along best with people who have some of the same interests and values as you. 
  1. Consider if you want to share your diagnosis – Decide whether or not you want to talk about having autism. Some people find it empowering while others find it challenging.1 
  1. Work on your social and communication skills – If you have a hard time reading body language, maintaining eye contact or making small talk, consider practicing these skills with a friend.  
  1. Choose a comfortable place to meet – When you’re first getting to know someone, it’s a good idea to meet with them in a coffee shop or some other public place. You may also want to choose a location that’s not too loud or overstimulating. 
  1. Remember, safety first – Don’t invite your date over to your house or to go to their home until you know each other really well. Also be sure to let a family member or friend know who you’re meeting, where you’re meeting and what time you’ll be home. 
  1. Practice good hygiene – Make sure you’ve showered, put on clean clothes, and brushed your hair and teeth before you meet up with your date. 
  1. Show up with a positive attitude – On the day of your date, show them that you are responsible by arriving on time or even a few minutes early. Be polite and smile when you meet them. 
  1. Keep the conversation fun and light – Consider asking your date questions about how their day is going, what shows they like to watch or what they like to do for fun. Try not to ask too many questions though or they might feel like they’re being interrogated. 
  1. Take things slow – Enjoy your time getting to know your date. Talk to each other about your dating expectations, how often you’d like to communicate and your boundaries. 
  1. Relax and have a good time – Last, don’t worry about making mistakes or saying the wrong thing. It happens to everyone. The important thing is to just be yourself!